SILENT NO MORE!

This is a quest blog post that I was asked to feature on The Bipolar Writer Blog. You can find the authors website here. The link is also below

I do not own the content and the subject discussed is of what author wanted to share on my blog.

Silent No More!

Women carry a tiny little human being for approximately 9 months and their hope is that maybe one day that tiny being will do something to make a difference in the world. But what about women that lose that chance in the very beginning of their pregnancies? What about their dreams and hopes for their baby? What about the men that will never perhaps get a chance to become fathers and teach their child things of this world? According to the American Pregnancy Association, 10-25% of pregnancies end up in miscarriages, that’s 1 in every 4 pregnancies that lose hope, gain a hole in their heart, and forever are scarred by the pain of losing a child that they immediately fell in love with but that never came to be. Our society treats miscarriages like it’s a cold that will eventually go away. Statements such as, “you’ll get over it,” or “it’s so common,” or “you’ll get pregnant again,” are just some things I have heard people say to women and myself, who have lost a baby, a tiny part of them, a little being in the first 20 weeks of their pregnancy. I find that people forget that miscarriage is not a choice. It’s a tragedy that shatters dreams in an instance. One minute you have your life planned out with this tiny baby growing inside of you and the next minute, it’s over. We need to come alongside people that are suffering from miscarriages and be of support. We need to empathize, empower and engage instead of ignoring, forgetting and blaming!

How do we help and become more aware as a society in today’s fast paced world? We do this by first, empathizing and not sympathizing so that we can begin to understand the pain and heartache that occurs. Ask yourself, “what if that was me, losing my child?” “What would I need?” Say things like, “I am here for you” or “how can I help you get through this pain?” It’s okay to not understand what they are going through but it is important to let them know that you’re there for them in this journey of healing.

Second, we need to empower women who have gone through miscarriage to self-care and not blame themselves. Women question their choices from A to Z, everything that may have made “them” lose their child. Self-care is essential to healing.
Third, we need to engage with them by having conversations with their loss rather than brushing it under the rug as if it didn’t exist. The saying, “Out of sight, out of mind,” should not be applied to women who have gone through miscarriages. We need to talk to them, sit with them and engage in helping them heal through the loss by having grief groups specifically for miscarriages for example.

This is not a subject matter that should be hidden, it’s one that needs to come out of the shadows and be made aware of in our society. Next blog, I’ll go into depth about what the three E’s, Engage, Empower and Educate can do to help people who have gone through miscarriage/s and how we as a society can come alongside them and help them heal.

Authors Blog site: http://movingforwardwithhope.blog/

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4 Replies to “SILENT NO MORE!”

  1. Thank you for addressing miscarriage/s today. My mom has had first hand experience with this and in fact this was the thing that drove her into a deep depression. Losing a baby is literally the most pain a parent can go threw. Both parents are affected but the mother is effected more. She has had this child inside them like you stated and now its gone. No human being doesn’t look toward the future and try to imagine who there child is gonna be what they’re gonna look like. When you lose that child you not only have lost a life your hopes and dreams have died with them. I feel for everyone who has gone through such trauma. I might not have actually experienced this personally, but I have seen what such an atrocity does to a person firsthand. Thank you for addressing this subject.

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    1. I didn’t write it, it was a guest blog post. But I agree it was a good one to talk about and one I haven’t had on my blog too much. Thank you for taking the time to read the blog post b

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      1. I was wondering if you would be kind enough to give me a shout out. I know it’s a lot to ask because I just started but I would appreciate it very much. I believe you can help me but if you decide not to I’ll understand. It won’t change my viewpoint nor will it dampen my drive to go on. I will continue to support you either way. Please consider…

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