Ten Things I Wish People Knew About My Social Anxiety Life

Social anxiety is a major part of my life. I am always working towards resolving my issues especially this year where I have so many big plans. You can find my series of blogs on social anxiety here.

My Social Anxiety Life – The Series

10 Things About My Social Anxiety Life

I have written a lot on The Bipolar Writer blog about my social anxiety life. It’s my major life goal of 2018 to finally conquer my social anxiety. I recently wrote an article about the ”Nine Things I Wish I People Knew About My Bipolar Depression.” Its publication will be in an online psychology magazine (will link it when it gets published.) It gave me the idea to write this blog.

I will share what I wish people knew about my own struggles. This should be fun.


1. Social anxiety is not fun or cool. Having social anxiety sucks. There is no getting around it, and it annoys me when people glamorize it. I am not talking about those of us who are struggling every day with crippling anxiety and are struggling. If asked If I could choose to have anxiety or not, 10/10 I would go without it. So many days I wish that I could be without my social anxiety.

2. Panic attacks can be an out-of-body experience. It is the worst thing when, in my social anxiety life, I lose control of who I am with a panic attack. The feeling you get when a panic attack strikes can take you outside your body.

3. Medication isn’t always the answer. I have had positive an negative experiences with anxiety medication. What I have learned is anti-anxiety medication can be really good, but alone it is not enough. I have had to learn the hard way that you have to find outlets to channel your anxiety.

4. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is very useful. I can’t imagine I would have gotten through the major parts of my social anxiety without CBT. I think my social anxiety would be 100 times worse. I have found it effective to learn CBT alongside my therapist. There are plenty of CBT workbooks out there for those who prefer work alone.

5. In my social anxiety life I have my safe places. These are perhaps the best things and the worst things. I can be productive in my safe places— my favorite coffee shops or at my desk at home. It can also be counterproductive. I tend to only go to my safe places during the months when my social anxiety is out of control.

6. It takes me a while to get used to new people. My thoughts are often about the worst case scenarios when faced with social situations. I tend to be really shy in life. I don’t do well with people I don’t know. Once I get comfortable you will see a different side of me.

7. Driving anxiety is a real thing. I know its something in my life. Driving used to be one of my safe places but the last two year have been a struggle. I have no idea the triggers because I love driving. My social anxiety has become a major “on my mind thing” while driving and the fear of having a panic attack while driving is real. It has happened a few times just in the last six months.

8. My social anxiety can be more crippling than depression. It’s hard to say but I have made this realization recently. I can, at some level, work on my depression. That comes from years of experience. While anxiety has been a part of my life over the last ten years, it got worse over the three or four years. It’s been prominent in my therapy since I started.


9. Group Therapy doesn’t work for my social anxiety life. I have had bad experiences with group therapy. I had trouble just opening up to my therapist and it is impossible for me to focus or share in a group setting.

10. Writing about my social anxiety life has saved me. I would be nowhere with my social anxiety without my blog. I am able to write and share which in itself has been great. The support from the mental illness community has been absolutely unreal, and it has helped me grow into my social anxiety.

So that is it. Ten things I wish people knew about my social anxiety. It is a pleasure as always to share my life with my fellow bloggers.

Always Keep Fighting.

James Edgar Skye

Please Help me Publish my Memoir

I am getting close to finishing my memoir “The Bipolar Writer” and I have decided to go down the self-publishing route. If you can donate anything towards my goal, it would mean the world to me. Those that donate will get a special mention in my memoir.


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20 thoughts on “Ten Things I Wish People Knew About My Social Anxiety Life

  1. Group sessions for social anxiety, no, no, no, not for me. I guess thir thinking is getting use to being in a group and it might be easier if everyone is the samae issues as you. Thing is, their issues are never the same. I couldn’t do it.

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  2. Hey James, I can relate to this post so much. Thanks for writing this – I am gonna share this. I am a therapist myself and have used CBT with myself and clients successfully when coping with (social) anxiety. I do hope you get your memoir published.

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  3. This is excellent. So many great points! I, too, have had the best luck with CBT to try to combat this. Positive self-talk and finally getting through attacks by defining a ‘safe place’ and going there even in mind only to curb the voracious appetite of fear. ~Kim

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About James Edgar Skye

I am a novelist, screenwriter, and blogger. I have written a screenplay entitled “Memory of Shane” and working towards the completion of the novel version. I am also writing my memoir “The Bipolar Writer" which also serves as the name of this blog. I also write feature articles on other members of the mental illness community on my blog.