If being in group therapy has taught me anything…it’s a million and one ways to try to avoid a relapse into depression.
That’s all good and well, but life happens. I still battle with depression. Now don’t get me wrong, all of my preventative hard work wasn’t in vain…it helps. Sometimes life just happens and I still get depressed.
So I find myself in a serious rut of depression… the kind that turns me into that person who rarely leaves their bed or goes near a shower. A person who’s eyes squint if I step outside, because they aren’t used to the light.
Most of those tips that helped me avoid this place, won’t help me out of here. If one more person tells me to “Get some exercise!”, while I can’t even get out of bed…I might throw I brick at them…if only I wasn’t too tired to locate a brick. What now?
Gratitude and Paying it Forward. These are my saving graces. They help me stop replaying all my negative thoughts in my head and start thinking of others. Let me explain a little.
Gratitude. When I find myself griping to myself about everything going wrong in my life, I try to turn it around. For instance, “My kids never pick up after themselves!” turns into “But that means I am lucky enough to have children”. Or “My electric bill is so high this month!” turns into, “But that is because of my AC and man, am I grateful for AC during these Georgia summers!” You get the idea.
Paying it forward. This one usually involves me going out of the house, which is hard when you’re depressed. So I do the bare minimum. Put my gross hair in a ponytail, make sure I’m wearing some sort of pants, then I’m out. My favorite thing to do is to go through the drive-thru at a coffee joint. Then I pay for the next persons drink, and go home. This is great for many reasons. 1) It makes me feel good 2) It makes them feel good 3) I got out of the house 4) I didn’t have to take a shower 5) Now I have coffee
These are just the things that help me personally start to dig my way out of a pit of depression. What do you do?